I was dying to
That I didn’t need
to try so hard to be perfect,
That i was enough
it was okay.
(1)i realized today that i've been being a perfectionist with my leadership in an organization. I didn't realize it before because I always thought that perfectionism was paying attention to the tiniest details but still completing them. What's happening with me is that i'm faced with a large goal and get overwhelmed because it's so huge and i feel like i'm the only one that can take care of it, i can't break this goal down into little goals. and then i get so overwhelmed about it that i just
(2) can’t complete the task because i know i’ll mess it up. and then i feel like any shortcomings in the organization are my fault. i’m seeing a therapist about it now but i just thought i’d say that
Firstly finding out what unhelping behaviors you indulge in is great, its the first step toward beating them! Perfectionists definitely experience what you describe, you desire to do something so perfectly you look at all the parts but then all those parts make the whole look twice as large, a task too large to accomplish and so you refrain from begining as you fear you will never end, in the manner you wish.
I’m super glad you’re seeing a therapist! Talking over behaviors like this is definitely a help and also thank you for sharing with us!
I know what its like to take the short comings of a group as your personal failings but it is definitely not that way in reality.
You are wonderful friend, you’ve got this I know. You’ll make it
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"Binge on life. Purge negativity. Starve guilty feelings. Restrict unhappy thoughts. Count blessings, not calories. The only weight you ever need to lose is the weight of the world on your shoulders."
Not self centered like ignorant
self centred like prioritising
Every day people try reinforcing a brick wall by chipping away at the bricks they don’t want to see in it
People tell you to be more confident as if confidence is something hanging on a hanger in your closet ready for you to pull out and wear. Only by saying those words they’re sending a ’be how I expect you to be, not be who you are’ message which does not make you more confident and secure. It just points out that they find you lacking desirable qualities.
There have been times I had the feeling of being secure with myself, confident, and the verbal slings and arrows people threw at me bounced right off, but those times are rare.Those moments didn’t happen because I consciously willed them happen. I didn’t start by thinking to myself ‘I have decided that I will be confident today’. They only happen when I’m sure of what I want, sure of what needs to be done, sure of my ability to do it, sure of the need to do it and know I’m the one to do it. Those moments are hard to come by when you live in a world of uncertainty, when society, friends, family, significant others are constantly bombarding you with millions of different expectations and many of those expectations are incompatible with other expectations.
Thanks for bearing with me while I was sick, you guys! I’ll post an additional Long Letter sometime this week to make up for the one I missed on Friday.
why does perfectionist polar bear have such a huge ass?
I laughed really hard at this because i know what you mean.
But I have literally no idea, though I’m pretty sure its just its pelvis, like you know when cats and dogs sit down and you can see their hip bones kinda jutting out? I think its the polar bear version of that!
Okay I need to talk about this thing with someone
and the finally finding the person to mention the thing and
Thank you :) *hugs* right back to you!
can we make this a group thing? maybe?